Community Group Questions - 5/25/14

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Guatemala Fund Raisers

  • This July we are sending a team to Guatemala to work with Compassion International and do some light construction.
  • There are two opportunities for you to help, two fundraisers to will help the team members.
  • On Wednesday, June 4th we will have a dinner and silent auction and then Sunday, June 8th we will have a waffle breakfast and bake sale.
  • You can buy tickets to both of these events today, after the service, in the back of the auditorium.

Summer Serve

  • I also want to tell you about an opportunity to get involved this summer in our Kids Ministry, starting this week,  with Kids Summer Serve.
  • Summer Serve is going on from Memorial Day (that’s tomorrow) to Labor Day. It's your chance to jump in and have a blast with our Kids Ministry, serving every-other week over the summer. Your bulletin has more info about how to get involved.

 

 

Sermon Title: Keep The Peace, Part 2: How To Resolve Conflict

Main Texts: Matthew 7:3-5

Topics:

  • This is one of the most well known things Jesus ever said. He says don’t try to take a speck out of someone’s eye, when you have a log in your eye. He is talking about hypocrisy.
  • He is saying that often we try to correct others, but in reality we have an even bigger glaring problem.
  • Imagine someone has an eyelash in their eye. Their friend offers to help. The problem is that they have a 2 x 4 stuck in their eye. They probably won’t be of very much assistance.
  • There are a few principles in here that help us understand how to resolve conflict.
  • Principle 1: No One Sees Clearly in Conflict
    1. If you have a speck in your eye, and I have a log, then neither of us can see clearly.
    2. This is vitally important to remember in conflict. Because we almost never believe this.
    3. Our emotions have gotten the best of us. We are angry or hurt or frustrated or bitter. And we never see things clearly with those emotions.
    4. Conflict will not be resolved until I assume that I can’t see clearly.
  • Principle 2: No One is Completely Innocent in Conflict
    1. If you have a speck and I have a log, then both of us have the same problem.
    2. This is another thing we tend to not believe about conflict.
    3. We get so focused on what they did, we don’t consider what we ourselves have done.
    4. Conflict cannot be resolved until I am ready to acknowledge that I am virtually always partially to blame.
  • These truths will help us avoid conflict pitfalls:
    1. The “Pseudo-Sorry” - if we don’t think we are at fault in anyway, then we may say a Pseudo-Sorry. We may say something disingenuous or ineffective like: “I’m sorry I got hurt, but I don’t think I did anything wrong.”
    2. “Blame-Reversal” - sometimes when someone brings something to our attention that we did wrong, we try to reverse it on them. Before we deal with what they said, we bring out baggage we are mad at them about. Another thing we do is blame them for the way they are talking to us, without addressing what they are saying.
    3. These things prevent conflict from getting resolved.
  • Jesus tells us to FIRST take the log out of our eyes. We should first figure out how we are to blame. We should go into conversations assuming we have contributed to the conflict. Why would we ever be surprised that we have done something wrong? Of course we don’t assume we are perfect.

 

Key Questions:

  1. HIGH/LOW: What was the high point of your week and the low point?
  2. ICEBREAKER: Why do you think Jesus uses the idea of something being caught in our eye, to describe conflict?
  3. READ: Matthew 7:1-5
  4. What hits you the most in this passage?
  5. What does Jesus mean by His “log and speck” illustration?
  6. In what spheres of life do you think this type of conflict often appears?
  7. Have you ever seen someone trying to blame someone for something they themselves obviously struggle with? What happened?
  8. In this passage both parties have something clouding their vision. How does being angry, hurt, or frustrated cloud our vision in conflict?
  9. How does accepting the truth that neither party sees clearly in conflict change how we approach conflict?
  10. In this passage both parties have the same problem - something in their eyes. What does it look like in a conflict when someone does won’t take any responsibility?
  11. How does it change our approach to conflict when we assume we have contributed to the problem?
  12. Why is it so hard to accept this truth?
  13. Based on this passage what are some practical things we can do before going into a conflict to help us have the right perspective?
  14. Does anyone have a conflict they are going through right now that we can pray for?

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