Community Group Questions September 20, 2015

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Welcome Back Community Group Leaders!

Below you will find questions for both the SERMON BASED format and the MEANING OF MARRIAGE curriculum.

I hope you have a great time of discussion & fellowship

Sermon Title:

   The PowerHOUSE Summit, Part 4

The Spiritual Development of My Kids

Main Text:

Ephesians 6:4, Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Announcements :

  •  Guys Miami Dolphin Outing    Sunday September 27th, we will be taking 50 guys to the Dolphins/BIlls game.  Tickets are $50 and include entry and transportation via luxury charter coach.  Tickets are available from Steve Englund ( cash or credit card accepted ! )  Get them now!   Call him at (954) 604-2440 to order by phone.
  • Men's and Women's Ministry are back in business.   Guys meet in the Fuge every Monday night from 7 - 8:30 pm.   Ladies can meet either Wednesday morning at 10 am or at 7 pm in the Multi-Purpose room.
  • Next Step Classes will be next Sunday September 27th after each service in the Multi-Purpose room. This class will only last about 30 minutes

Topics:  ( Not to be read in group.. this is for your review and recollection )

    • We learn from Ephesians that the responsibility for the spiritual development of children is placed on parents.
    • Even more specifically, the responsibility is directed at the father in the family. While both parents are responsible, Dads in particular should take up the responsibility to train up their children in the instruction of the Lord.
    • Deuteronomy echos this mandate to parents.
    • First, it tells God’s people to first “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” Jesus repeats this command saying it is the greatest and most primary command in the entire Bible. It is a command to live a life of full-throttle worship to God.
    • This should be on the hearts of God’s people. It should be “in” them. Not just something they go through the motions to accomplish. Worship to the Almighty is something that they are passionate to, down to the core.
    • Then it says to “teach them diligently to your children.” Before it tells God’s people to teach them to their kids, it tells them that it has to be real in their hearts. This is a key point in developing our kids spiritually. First and foremost it has to be real to me!
    • But that doesn’t mean that if we just live worshipful lives, that our kids will incidentally pick up on it. We are to “diligently” teach it to our kids. It is not something accidental or subconscious that happens. We are supposed to be intentional, aggressive, planned, prepared.
    • What are we to be prepared to do? Teach our kids Bible stories? Expose them to religion? Build them good character and morals? So much more than that! We are called to follow the command to “love God with all their heart, soul and might.” We are commanded to create more than just polite, churchgoers. We are commanded to create all out passionate worshipers.
    • But specifically, how do we do that? Deuteronomy tells us to do this when we sit, walk, lie down and get up. In other words: all the time!
    • Here are some categories to think through:
      • Spontaneous - be ready to turn conversations to God in the moment, stop and pray as a family for something, seize the opportunities to instruct kids spiritually
      • Planned - plan and prepare for strategic conversations, events, and opportunities as a family
      • Routine - create the right routines in the family - church, devotions, prayer time, holidays, etc.


    • HIGH/LOW: What was the high point of your week and the low point?
    • ICEBREAKER: What was one of the best pieces of advise your parents gave you?
    • READ: Ephesians 6:4, Deuteronomy 6:4-9
    • What is the most intimidating part of spiritually developing our kids?
    • Why do you think it is so important that a child’s spiritual development be spearheaded at home?
    • Was your mother or father more the spiritual influence in your life?
    • Why do you think it is significant that Ephesians specifically instructs fathers to spiritually instruct their children?
    • What are some learning lessons in your life that you now realize were more incidentally caught than intentionally taught?
    • What do you think Deuteronomy means by spiritually instructing your children when you sit, walk, lie down, and rise up?
    • What are some obstacles in your home that deter from having a spiritual culture of prayer, worship, or fellowship?
    • Since eternity is at stake....What are some ways we can still be an influence in the lives of our adult children?
    • What are some things you have done in your home to develop your family spiritually?
    • What are some things you would like to start doing to develop your family spiritually?

Don't forget to post your attendance after group.


Note: Encourage everyone to read the chapter each week, or they will be lost!   This is not one of those discussions that people will be able to "phone in."   You will see that many of the questions refer to specifics in the book.
  • ICEBREAKER -What is your best or favorite memory from your marriage?
  • HIGH / LOW  
  • What do you think God's purpose is for marriage?                       
  • Timothy Keller writes that, “…marriage, next to our relationship to God is the most profound relationship there is.”  Do you agree with this statement?  Why or why not?    
  • What are some of your thoughts on the marriage statistics provided on pages 14-18 (kindle), 22-27 (hard copy)?     
  • How did the Enlightenment change the view of marriage? Do you believe this view of marriage has impacted our culture today in any way?        
  • What do you believe are three common symptoms of a “Me-Marriage”?  Which of these do you personally struggle with the most?      
  • Timothy Keller concludes that a soul mate, a “perfectly compatible person” does not exist.  How do you feel about this statement? (p.30, 38)       
  • A Pew Research Center statistic indicates that nearly 40% of Americans believe that marriage is becoming obsolete.  Do you believe the church has a responsibility to help others see marriage as a good thing?  How can this best be accomplished?         
  • Do you think it’s necessary for somebody to give up their personal interests or hobbies for the sake of their marriage and/or family?  Please explain.           
Leader’s Note: Feel free to follow-up with another question: What 2-3 interests or hobbies have you given up for the sake of your marriage/family?  Discuss how easy /difficult it is to give up your own desires for the desires of your spouse.

Don't forget to post your attendance after group.