Community Group Week of October 25, 2015

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Hey, Community Group Leaders!

Only 4 more weeks of community group for this season!  Let's finish strong!

Below you will find questions for both the SERMON BASED format and the MEANING OF MARRIAGE curriculum.

I hope you have a great time of discussion & fellowship.

Announcements :

  • Babysitting Night for Young Marrieds
    Saturday, November 21st, we are giving a few of our Young Married with Kids Community Groups the opportunity to have a date night with FREE BABYSITTING ! 
    AND.... we need your group to volunteer for said free babysitting.  The pay is horrible, but the blessing will be incalculable!
    This is a great way to serve some of our own from West Pines.    Babysitting has become so expensive, and this is a cool way to give some of these struggling young parents a inexpensive night out.
    It would be great to have a ton of volunteers come from 5:45 pm and end at 10:00 pm the latest.  We will meet in the Children's Ministry area. It will be a great time together, and  a great time playing with all the kiddos!   And, if you can't stay the entire time, we still need ya!
    Please e-mail me a list of the people who will be volunteering ASAP, so we can do a quick background check per our church policy.
    Please get your groups behind this great service opportunity!
  • The Refuge Eat and Greet - An Open House For Parents
    If you’re a parent of a middle or high school student, then the Refuge student ministry has a special event planned just for you on Thursday, October 29th at 7pm. This is an opportunity for you to get a taste of the Refuge experience, enjoy some food, and meet your student’s tribe leader. If you need childcare for your elementary age children and younger, you can make a reservation by contacting , by Sunday, 10/25.
  • Habitat for Humanity is having a group volunteer day on December 5, 2015, to help build a home. The site will be in Broward county but exact address is to be determined. The time is from 745am-1230pm. Must arrive by 745am.  They could use up to 10 volunteers.  Please contact Patty Grinion directly at / 727-688-3244

Sermon Title: 

Revolt, Part 3: The Overthrow

Main Text:

Ecclesiastes 5:13-20, 1:1-2, 5:10, 12:13, Matthew 6:19-21

Topics:  ( Not to be read in group.. this is for your review and recollection )

  • Ecclesiastes can be a dark book. But it is a brilliant book. It is an important book. It displays what the world really is without God. Solomon writes that it is all vanity of vanities. In other words, it is all empty. Then he proceeds through each major category of life and shows why it is vanity. At the end of the book, after revealing our utter hopelessness, he essentially says the only lifeline we have is to fear God and obey Him.
  • He spends a good portion of the book discussing the issue of money. He says the love of money is vanity. It is empty. It will simply lead to frustration. It is like chasing after a vapor to try and grasp it in our hands.
  • The problem is we can get so consumed with the pursuit that we never stop to ask if we can truly grasp a vapor in our hands.
  • Solomon is specific to say that money is not the problem. The love of money is the problem. This is materialism. It is looking for more stuff or more money to find happiness, satisfaction, value, escape, success, acceptance. This will in the end be empty.
  • Specifically he points out that money is so fragile while we are alive. Then in the end we will all die and we don’t take anything with us. He says, what’s the point?
  • He gets to the conclusion that we might as well just enjoy what we have while it lasts. That’s all we’ve got. It is a pretty dark perspective. But without God, that’s an unavoidable conclusion.
  • Solomon is displaying the world without God. So if there is no God then this life is meaningless. And since money won’t be satisfying, all we’ve got is to just accept the bitter reality that death is coming and try to enjoy what we can while we can.
  • But that is not the whole story!
  • There is a God. There is eternal life offered to us through the Son of God. And since we will spend eternity with Him, we have a job to do. We have a purpose.
  • Our goal is to prepare for eternity. And work with Him to get as many people prepared for eternity as possible.
  • Money is not an god. It is not worth making it the pursuit of my life. But it is a valuable tool. Jesus calls us to use that tool strategically for eternal ends.
  • He is calling us to look at every cent we own and utilize it for things that will matter for eternity.


  • HIGH/LOW: What was the high point of your week and the low point?
  • ICEBREAKER:  We spoke of Joan of Arc as a historical hero.... do you have one, and why that person?
  • READ: Ecclesiastes 5:13-20, Matthew 5:19-21
  • Solomon describes the world as empty without God. Do you completely agree with that? Why do you think that?
  • Do you think most people are as honest about death as Solomon is in verse 15?
  • What do you think most people consider their meaning in life to be?
  • How should a belief in eternity (and the fact that this is not our home) affect our life now?
  • Do you think that most people who believe in heaven live a life now that is consistent with that belief?  Why is that so difficult?
  • How is money better viewed as a tool rather than a goal?
  • What are some different ways that we can use our finances to have an eternal impact?
  • What are some ways we can spend on our families that have temporary value? 
  • What are some ways we can invest in our families that have eternal value?
  • What are ways we can wring (or pour) out our lives while here on earth that will have significance 1 billion years from now?

Don't forget to post your attendance after group.


The Meaning of Marriage - by Tim Keller

Chapter Six: Embracing the Other

NOTE : These are more questions than you will ever have time to fully discuss,   Please circle the ones you want to certainly cover and refer to the others as time permits...


ICEBREAKER - This past Sunday we spoke of Joan of Arc as a historical hero…. do you have one, and why that person?

What are some general ways you think men and women are different? What are some more specific ways you and your spouse are different?

Despite these differences, how has your marriage helped you to grow and mature like no other relationship you’ve experienced?

What dangers may there be in talking about the different roles of men and women in today’s culture? What advantages may there be?

The Bible is clear that men and women are of equal value and have different roles (leader and helper), yet the Bible does not say what specific skills, tasks, or temperaments belong to each of these roles.  Why do you think this may be the case?

Every individual has a different experience in their role as husband or wife.  Are there any areas in your marriage where you feel your role comes naturally to you?  Are there any ways you feel you operate counter to the typical expectations of your role?

Read Ephesians 5:21-33.      22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.  25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

         Men: What do you find most challenging about how you are to lead your family?

         Women: What do you find most challenging about submitting to your husband’s l leadership?

Which role do you believe is the most challenging: Is it the husband’s, the wife’s, or are both equally challenging? Please explain.

Read Ephesians 6:12.    For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.

Why do you think this passage comes so shortly after passages on marriage and parenting? What, specifically, must you and your spouse do to protect yourselves from attack?

        Men: How do other men you know and work with talk about their wives? Be specific.

Women: How do other women you know and work with talk about their husbands? Be specific. How     important do you think it is that you say only encouraging words about your spouse when you’re around others?

How does your marriage relationship complete you? (See Genesis 2:23-25)

Read Philippians 2:3-4.   Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Think about this passage in the context of your marriage. What are 3 ways you will serve your spouse this week that may not have been part of your normal service to him/her

Don't forget to post your attendance after group.